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As a single mom you can navigate life on your own

Start Here: How to Navigate Family Life On Your Own

“He’s gone.” Those words signaled I would navigate life on my own and launched my season as a single mom. Returning from church, as I steered our fifteen-passenger van onto our long gravel lane, I could see our home was strangely dark. 

Sitting forward, my daughter peered out the window and searched the empty driveway. “Where’s Dad’s car?”

On the bench seats in the back, the chatter of the other six children abruptly went quiet. Once inside the house, the children quickly discovered their father’s clothes were gone and his toothbrush was not in the bathroom cabinet. He had left.

Pam Farrel’s mother became a single mom when Pam’s two younger siblings were teens. Pam’s father struggled with alcohol and with each passing year, his anger and depression grew, leading to increased episodes of domestic violence and physical abuse until Pam’s mom took the children to safety.

One In Four Navigate Family Life Solo

Our stories are not unusual. Today, one in four homes is single-parent led and most solo parents are single moms. While some single mothers have been widowed because their husband took an early journey home, and some singles adopted, the majority of single parents began in committed relationships and never anticipated, expected, or intended to raise children alone. 

All parents need the ability and skills to make wise, discerning decisions. Single parents have the same concerns, dreams, and hopes as other parents. Yet, single moms often feel too overwhelmed to focus and be decisive when they most need to.

Reality for Single Mom

Reality for single moms is you

  • represent a wide range of ages and seasons of life 
  • wonder where you fit in society and the church
  • sometimes feel isolated, judged, and alone

Yet You Are Far From Alone 

  • Approximately 15 million people are solo parenting 22 million children in single-parent families
  • 85 percent of single-parent families are led by single moms with primary custody of their children
  • Some 40 percent of single mothers are over forty years old
  • More than three-fourths have full-time careers
  • One-third of single-parent families live at, or below, the poverty level
  • Less than half receive child support
  • The average yearly child support to single moms is $6,000
  • Less than half of single moms receive government assistance. Of the single moms who do receive government assistance, most do so only until they can survive on their own

Questions dog their thoughts. Is my life ruined? Will my children be permanently damaged? Do children need more love than I’m able to give? Can I provide all that my family needs? 

Challenges To Navigate Family Life On Your Own

The single parent works hard, loves her children, and longs for someone to love her, be strong for her, and care for her as she cares for her children. And Someone does. Pam and I had two goals when we wrote The Ten Best Decisions A Single Mom Can Make.

  • First, we provided heartfelt assurance that God sees, loves, and shepherds the single mom and her family.
  • Secondly, we filled the pages with practical suggestions on a myriad of vital topics about how to be the best solo parent possible. 

The Next Right Decision

In addition to sharing our stories, trusted experts vulnerably shared their experiences and life lessons in the areas of how to

  • be a proactive parent 
  • be a barrier breaker
  • develop relationship glue
  • deal with dating and romantic relationships

Because parents and children work well together with clear boundaries and expectations, Pam included her unique compilation of contracts for older children on topics from education to employment to a ready-to-use relationship contract. To be user-friendly for busy moms, this resource reads like an encyclopedia of bullet points, packed with proven ideas for thriving in the day-to-day. 

You Are Cherished

The Ten Best Decisions A Single Parent Can Make applauds the dogged determination of brave parents under challenging circumstances. And we want to give single moms the following assurances:

  • You are cherished, exactly where you are and as you are, by Jesus

“I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God” (Ephesians 3:17–19).

  • When you feel weak, he is strong.

“The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge, my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold” (Psalm18:2).

  • Before you knew him, he loved you.

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb” (Psalm 139:13).

  • He gives gentle guidance to single parents

“The Lord tends his flock like a shepherd; He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; and he gently leads those that have young” (Isaiah 40:11).

You Can Navigate Family Life On Your Own

If you’re parenting solo, most likely your happily ever after didn’t turn out as you had imagined, and when much that is precious is marred, your tender heart longs to honor the holy and sacred. The Ten Best Decisions A Single Mom Can Make serves serves as a companion, packed with practical tips and the assurance that God loves you and your children unconditionally, and that his promises are true.

You can navigate family life on your own. And you can navigate well. 

Your guide as you navigate family life on your own is The Ten Best Decisions A Single Mom Can Make. 

And to keep the conversation going, SingleMomCircle.com is a resource-rich place designed to help you and your family succeed.

For You As You Navigate Family Life On Your Own

No matter what difficulties a single mom might face, PeggySue Wells and Pam Farrel say it can be a beautiful story of God’s grace. Single moms can often feel like they live in a whirlwind, but PeggySue Wells and Pam Farrel give easy and practical steps to help them do the next right thing. As single moms draw near to God, PeggySue Wells and Pam Farrel say that it is more than possible to build a spiritual legacy for their children.
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Meet PeggySue

When I’m not writing, I parasail, scuba dive, skydive, snorkel, and haven taken (but not passed) pilot training. My greatest adventure has been being called Mama by seven awesome children and Mimi! by my Grammy awards.

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